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Here are some common questions…
When will I see results?
This is a tricky question. It depends on so many factors, including the type of change that is required, the age of your child, what has been happening prior to us working together, their personality, whether the plan has different phases, and consistency and persistence.
Generally speaking however, you will usually be able to see small changes within 3 days, and larger changes within 3 weeks, sometimes quicker, sometimes slower. This is not a linear process, sometimes once day naps are consolidated, night time can become a knock-on challenge, but after a few more days these consolidate too. Sometimes changes can be seen within 48 hours, other times we need to adjust the plan in response to how your child is responding to the changes you make. Unfortunately I cannot give guarantee’s, but if you are consistent and persistent, then you will see improvement.
I feel like a failure for needing help with this.
I totally understand. I have been where you are. I have been a tired parent, desperate for solutions and feeling like the worst mum because I didn’t know how, or couldn’t work out how to help my children.
So please be assured, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE! You are a parent doing what you have needed to do to get through the next hour/night/day/week/month (delete as appropriate). Our babies don’t come with a manual, and if they did this would be incredibly boring as they wouldn’t be the wonderful , curious, funny, surprising little individuals that they are! Its HARD being a parent sometimes. My passion is to help parents like you who need support to help the whole family to get better sleep, and all the benefits that come with that.
On a more serious note, Post Natal Depression and Anxiety are extremely serious conditions. Mum’s and partners can suffer. If you feel you may need someone to talk to about how you are feeling, please contact your GP as a matter of urgency.
What is your process for Option 2 - supported package
With Option 2 (or 3 – home visit), the process is as follows:
- I send you an intake form to complete – this gives me a history of your child, including information about their weight, birth, food, medical history and more. It also covers your parenting style, your goals, and what you’ve tried to date.
- I also send you a 48 hour diary to complete. This gives me a full picture of what is happening. Over a 48 hour period I can get a good picture about how days and nights flow (they both affect each other).
- We then book in for an indepth consultation call. This is done either by phone or Skype / Zoom call. During this call we will go through your forms and I’ll ask you lots of questions to get a really full picture. We’ll then decide on goals, and discuss different options.
- You will then receive a written plan, confirming what we discussed and providing you with more background as to the reasons I am recommending the plan.
- You then continue to send me diaries on a regular basis in order for me to understand the changes that you are making and trends that are being shown. It is not a linear process. Some days you will see improvement, then others there won’t be. But this is totally normal during a sleep change process.
- We will also book in support follow up calls to discuss the effect the plan is having, how you are managing it and whether we need to make any changes to the plan, or implement it in a phased way.
- Your child’s sleep improves, as does yours (although many parents tell me that it takes a while for their own sleep to improve as they are so used to being woken and don’t trust that their child won’t wake as regularly as they used to!). Enjoy!
What ages to do you work with?
I work with children aged 0-4 years.
Different age ranges need different approaches. For example, settling a newborn for sleep is very different to settling a 3 year old for sleep. My advice to newborn parents that concerns a fussy younger baby (as an example) is very different to more complex problems seen in toddlers. Therefore it is important to contact me to discuss the situation and we can see what is the best support option for you.
Do you work with multiples?
Yes. I love working with twins and families with two children with sleep challenges!
Will your plans support breastfeeding?
Absolutely. I support all types of feeding.
Do you use cry based methods?
First, let me clarify what I mean about cry based methods.
The main one many people talk about is Cry-It-Out (or CIO). In short, this involves leaving a child in their room, closing the door and never returning. I do not advocate this method.
There are many other methods, some include being in the room, some involve being out of the room and regularly returning to comfort your child. I know many methods, and I work with you to find an approach that suits you, and is age appropriate.
There are no guarantee’s that a child will not get upset during a change process, in fact it is rare that children do not cry when change occurs. This is very different to ‘letting your child cry’.
The American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) is the main knowledge base for sleep consultants. They have researched the effects of cry and stress on children. They determine different levels of stress as:
- Positive stress response: a normal response that is helpful for the growth of your child. These responses are not intense, irregular and short. Whatever the stressful event the child remains supported throughout. Processing these emotions and resilience is learning skill when these events occur. When an event like this occurs biochemical reactions return to normal shortly after. This is the type of stress children may experience during normal periods of change in their daily life such as changing their sleep.
- Tolerable Stress: These are longer and more severe responses. Examples include loss of a loved one, divorce, illness. When the stressor is removed the brain returns to normal if the child is safe, protected and supported. This type of stress is much ‘harder’ than any stress that may be experienced in a 3 week sleep change process.
- Toxic Stress: This is a stressor that impacts the brain and body to such a level that recovery fails. Care giving is absence and the child is left damaged. Examples include sexual abuse, violence and household dysfunction. This is FAR beyond what a child will experience during a sleep change process.
Toxic stress is damaging to children. We do not work within this range.
If you are concerned about your child’s upset, then its important to recognise it, and determine a response. Please remember that a lack of sleep is incredibly damaging to a child (and adults) health, physical and mental, and to improve this is the goal.
Do you give guarantee's?
I can’t give guarantee’s as every child is different and every parent is different, and every parent’s goals are different. With persistency and consistency you will see improvement. This is definate.
What are your package prices?
My packages start from £60 for an hour’s call (Option 1 – ask me anything call). It is really important to discuss different options with me so that I can work out what is best for you, as I usually tailor a package that will suit your situation.
My child has some particular medical issues, can you work with us?
If your child has other medical issues, then please let me know when you contact me. I can then talk to you to see whether you need to get your GP / Consultant / other medical professional to give you the go ahead to work with me. In all cases, Doctor’s advice is always paramount, and I always respect their instruction.